Try Not To Be Obstinate
I was at the Supercenter recently and a lady thanked me for giving her daughters jobs and she mentioned that one was starting University. We talked a while longer and I mentioned in 45 years of business, I’ve seen a great number of young talented people. I know that out of our employees there are doctors, ministers, accountants, school teachers, professors, trades people, business owners, lawyers, pharmacists and even grocers.
Of course we pride ourselves in picking the best young people in our communities, but I began to wonder why there are the disparities between our most successful graduates and the also-rans. There didn’t seem to be a great deal of difference between them, most of the characteristics and habits were the same. Seeing these people later we are puzzled and confused about the directions of some. We pat ourselves on the backs for the successes, but what of the failures? Some of these people are growing, contributing and others simply growing older. Some were set on course, others were just drifting. The one thing that surprises us is that talent, ability or schooling has little to do with their successes.
There was a college professor who studied his students post-graduation and he wrote:
There seems to be but little difference between students. But the little seems to make the difference. All people are endowed with larger qualities of life. But some possess the single extra heartbeat which often spelled the difference between success and failure. There is really no invisible barrier that separates the winner from the loser. It could be the ‘little things,’ the extra hour, the extra call, the ability to stick to it another day when all others have given up. This is the real difference.
Someone once said, I am certain the great difference between man, between the weak and the powerful, the great and the insignificant is Energy, invincible determination, a purpose once fixed and then death or victory. That quality will do anything that can be done; no talent, no circumstances, no opportunities will make a man or woman a winner without it.
You know, maybe stubbornness is not really that bad a trait, but try not to be obstinate.