Responsibility For Their Actions
I was at the McLennan arena the other day and I watched with other parents and grandparents a really good hockey game. Kids from both teams played well and our grandson, Nick played goal for the first time. He, like other young kids who play goal, go though a lot of body expressions. Sometimes he looked like Tommy Salo or Grant Fuhr concentrating on form and the game. At other times he would skate around the goal or just lay down in front of the net watching for the play to come to his end.
I was impressed with the whole experience and even though Nick’s team lost 6-5, everyone felt good. It wasn’t until I went into the dressing room that I heard some distressing remarks. One of the parents, rather than patting the kids on the back for a game well played, started making excuses for the loss. He blamed the referee, suggesting maybe we should bring our own referee next time. As far as I was concerned, the game was fairly reffed. The kids weren’t complaining, nor the coaches.
Why do so many people in our society refuse to accept the responsibility for their actions? Why do they have to blame someone or something else? We know they will accept accolades for their successes but its easy to count the people who will accept responsibility for their failures.
To me it seems as though we have switched many of our principles and life positive values for negative ones. For us as parents and grandparents, the challenge is in developing character and values in future generations. We must encourage them to internalize the integrity and other character traits. We want the kids to see connections between themselves and others and treat each other with respect and caring. We, as adults, can’t expect the kids to develop these morals. We must be positive role models. Norman Vincent Peale has a nine step program for a healthy, happy and positively successful life:
1. Stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself succeeding.
2. When a negative thought comes to your mind, replace it with a positive thought.
3. Don’t overestimate obstacles, minimize them and deal honestly with them.
4. Be your own person, don’t initiate others or be star-struck.
5. Say to yourself: ‘If God be with us who can be against us’? (Romans 8:31).
6. Get a confidant or competent counselor to help understand your self doubt and fears.
7. Practice by saying ‘What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.’ Earl Nightingale.
8. Make a true estimate of your own ability, then raise it 10%. Believe in your own God-given powers.
9. Remind yourself that God is with you and nothing can defeat you. Believe that you have received power from Him.
There is no doubt, that if each of us follow these nine steps, our personal lives, our professional lives and social lives will be greatly improved. There is a high probabilty that you will live a longer, heatiher and happier life.